5 Signs You Glorify Self .

Paul Tripp gives us 5 signs that says we are seeking self-glory.  Today we are going to look at the first one.  Each day we will look at one of the signs.

It is important to recognize the harvest of self-glory in you and in your ministry. May God use this list to give you diagnostic wisdom. May he use it to expose your heart and to redirect your ministry.

Self-glory will cause you to:

1. Parade in public what should be kept in private.

The Pharisees live for us as a primary example. Because they saw their lives as glorious, they were quick to parade that glory before watching eyes. The more you think you've arrived and the less you see yourself as daily needing rescuing grace, the more you will tend to be self-referencing and self-congratulating. Because you are attentive to self-glory, you will work to get greater glory even when you aren't aware that you're doing it. You will tend to tell personal stories that make you the hero. You will find ways, in public settings, of talking about private acts of faith. Because you think you're worthy of acclaim, you will seek the acclaim of others by finding ways to present yourself as "godly."

I know most pastors reading this column will think they would never do this. But I am convinced there is a whole lot more "righteousness parading" in pastoral ministry than we would tend to think. It is one of the reasons I find pastors' conferences, presbytery meetings, general assemblies, ministeriums, and church planting gatherings uncomfortable at times. Around the table after a session, these gatherings can degenerate into a pastoral ministry "spitting contest" where we are tempted to be less than honest about what's really going on in our hearts and ministries. After celebrating the glory of the grace of the gospel there is way too much self-congratulatory glory taking by people who seem to need more acclaim than they deserve.

Whom will I serve today?  I don't know about you but much of my day is like what Paul says in Romans. " I do the things I hate and do not do the things I want." My paraphrase. How about you? 

The Most Dangerous Prayer for Pastors

I don't think you could say more dangerous words than those found in the Lord's Prayer. I don't think you could pray a more radical prayer. Probably most of us, even in ministry, would hesitate to say these words if we really understood what we were saying. We would at least pause before repeating this prayer if we clearly understood that we were actually inviting upheaval into our lives and ministries. This prayer can't be answered except through the tearing down and rebuilding of many things in our lives.

Here are the radical words I have been alluding to: "Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven" (Matthew 6:10). I must admit that I don't always greet God's kingdom with delight. I want certain things in my life, and I not only want them, but I know how, when, and where I want them. I want my life and ministry to be comfortable. I want my schedule to be unobstructed and predictable. I want people to esteem and appreciate me. I want control over the situations and relationships that I cannot avoid. I want people to affirm my opinions and follow my pastoral lead. I want the ministry initiatives I direct to be well received and successful.

When I am off the ministry clock, I want the pleasures that I find entertaining to be available to me. I want my children to appreciate that they have been blessed with me as their father. I want my wife to be a joyful and committed supporter of my dreams. I don't want to suffer. I don't want to live without. I don't want to have to deal with personal defeat or ministry failure. It is humbling to admit, but I want my kingdom to come and my will to be done.

Our Own Way

In this way I stand with everyone in Scripture from Cain to Peter who wanted his own will or who followed his own way. Think of King David. What a high calling to be part of a kingdom that would never end, out of which the Messiah would come. But in David's claustrophobic little kingdom of one, Bathsheba would be his wife. In David's kingdom, Bathsheba would not have already been married. In David's kingdom he could have Bathsheba and the blessing of the Lord on his reign at the same time. So David acted out of zeal for his own kingdom, forgetting that he was sent as the ambassador of a greater King.

Sadly, in life and ministry, you and I do the very same thing. I get mad at someone not because he broke God's law but because he broke mine. We get impatient with others because they seem to delay the realization of our kingdom's purposes. Or we get discouraged with God because he brings the very uncomfortable things into our lives that we work so hard to avoid.

"Your kingdom come" is a dangerous prayer, for it means the death of your sovereignty. It means your life and ministry will be shaped by the will of another. It means you will experience the messiness, discomfort, and difficulty of God's refining grace. It means surrendering the center of your universe to the One who alone deserves to be there. It means loving God above all else and your neighbor as yourself. It means experiencing the freedom that can only be found when God breaks your bondage to you. It means finally living for and ministering for the one glory that is truly glorious, the glory of God.

The prayer that Christ taught us to pray is the antidote to sin in. Since sin starts with the heart, I'll only live within the moral boundaries God has set when my heart desires God's will more than it desires my own. No set of ministry disciplines, no wonderful strategic plan, and no reformation of leadership culture can produce a heart that functionally and joyfully submits to God's kingdom and glory. Only God's powerful transforming grace can produce this kind of heart.

Only those being delivered by death, who desire to escape the kingdom of self that always leads to destruction and death, pray "Your kingdom come"---words of surrender, words of protection, and words of grace. Are you willing to say, "Lord I commit to doing everything I do, saying everything I say, and choosing everything I choose for the sake of your kingdom and not mine"? Do you find joy and hope in knowing that as God calls you to live and minister for his kingdom he frees you from being in bondage to your little kingdom of one? And do you daily seek grace freely given so you may say "yes" to both questions?

Paul Tripp is the president of Paul Tripp Ministries , a nonprofit organization whose mission statement is "Connecting the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life." Tripp is also professor of pastoral life and care at Redeemer Seminary in Dallas, Texas, and executive director of the Center for Pastoral Life and Care in Fort Worth, Texas. Tripp has written many books on Christian living, including the forthcomingDangerous Calling: Confronting the Unique Challenges of Pastoral Ministry. He has been married for many years to Luella, and they have four grown children.

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Throughout the day, I choose my kingdom over God's Kingdom and it causes havoc in my life.  I bet you do too.  This will be my journey as I try to decrease my kingdom and enlarge God's Kingdom.